Interconnected

All posts made in Sep. 2015:

Half-caste

Who Am I isn't a question I spend much time thinking about, but it's sufficiently complicated that when I do, I can't quite get a handle on it.

My dad was from north London. My mum's Indian, and what we'd call now a first generation economic migrant -- she moved from Kenya to the UK at 18, for work. Met my dad, married, etc. She was born middle-class in Kenya, until relatively recently she'd never been to India: Technically her ethnic group is "East African Indian."

So her family was part of the Indian diaspora. Her dad - my grandfather - my Nanabapa - was himself a migrant, albeit he was three years old when he was brought by his family to Mombasa from the Indian subcontinent.

What does being a migrant mean to your sense of identity? To be Indian in east Africa; to be ethnically Indian in London... but not part of the larger, more cohesive British Asian community? Displaced over generations. What does it feel like? What's passed on? Apart from the obvious empathies I mean. What subtle, secret gifts have I been given? I don't know. Food is love. The family is Ismaili, it's a pretty liberal branch of Islam, and I have a pretty liberal family.

I'm mixed race, but I don't look it. I look white. I grew up in a particularly white part of the UK, I speak only English, I've never set foot in a mosque. I've been to India on work, and to watch the cricket. Every so often white-appearing people say mildly racist things to me, or mildly Islamophobic things, expecting I'm like them. I'm not.

(Nairobi: Sitting at the back of my grandparents' house eating fried egg and chips and buttered chapatis. The smell of the red soil after the rain.)

Being half Indian and not looking it. I'm met with scepticism when I tell people, white, Indian, and mixed. It's another kind of displacement. What I'm allowed to claim and what I'm not. It can feel like I have a tenuous grip on my background, on my ability to honour my origins.

Sometimes when I imagine my identity, I feel instead an allegiance to the people of the future -- 22nd century people of tangled roots and chai skin.

But we were on holiday in Sicily the last couple of weeks, and we got talking to a few young Sicilians. The culture of Sicily is incredible, Greece, Carthage and Rome all on top of one another; Norman castles with Arabic interiors; halfway between Africa and Europe, a powerful centre to the Mediterranean. People there have light hair and dark hair, brown eyes and blue eyes, all shades. Italian. We were chatting to one light-haired girl and her dark boyfriend: I'm Norman, she said, He's Arab.

The Normans were Vikings who settled in France. They invaded England (and won). They came to Sicily a decade or two short of a thousand years ago. A thousand. The Arabs: Twelve hundred years ago. I'm Norman, he's Arab.

I have a thousand hedged affiliations. Half-caste, is what we used to call ourselves when we were little, watching out for the shocked look in response when we said those crude words. I'm proud, is what I am.

Later:

Whenever I link to this post, a couple of people (politely! correctly!) point out that 'half-caste' is something that some folks now find offensive. The thing is, it is. And more than I realised than when I was a kid... the shock I saw in people's eyes was real. But. It's a term I can say about myself that others aren't allowed to say about me. There's a little shard of ownership I can hold onto there, something that I don't really have anywhere else. It's mine and I think that's why I continue to use it. --Matt, June 2016

Tough on procrastination, tough on the causes of procrastination

Between one thing and another I've not been posting much here recently. I'd like to say it's because I've been busy, but I think that's insufficient cause. Rather, there are three factors:

  1. Too much busyness of the wrong kind. I've been busy with travel, client work, formally and informally advising startups, coffee meetings, email to arrange coffee meetings, life admin... all of which feels good and helpful, and generating of opportunities. But I've been neglecting my own projects (I include writing here in that category). Which means I've both lost momentum and acclimatised to that loss of momentum. Not only have I deprived myself of the energy that comes from personal creative activity, but this is compounded by:
  2. Procrastination. For me, procrastination often comes from being disconnected from my feelings -- it's fine to not want to do something, the killer is not knowing whether I want to do something or not. Procrastination is an emotional strategy. My capacity to do even unrelated tasks reduces, as I slow down on the task at hand. Recently I've been doing a lot of figuring out what I want out of the future, and I'm not familiar with listening to that part of myself. Between busyness and procrastination, I've been hit by:
  3. Thrashing, where I spend more time moving between things than doing the things themselves. Which further reduces my capacity for productive endeavour, which strengthens the conditions that lead to thrashing, which... Etc.

How to break the loop?

I don't know, but here's a possible strategy: Re-build a habit of personal creative output by climbing the ladder from whatever I'm doing now. I tweet and post photos on Instagram quite happily, and the next level up is writing here.

So, move my fingers, attempt not to think too much about quality, the objective is to start with a blank document and end up publishing it. Repeat.

Repeating might be difficult because I'm imminently off on my summer hols. I'll start when I get back...